Tunnel of self-love

The most attractive thing in another person, considered by all people even if not realized, is a person's ability to love himself. Self-love. What is it? Why are we drawn to people who have it? Self-love is not as much of an emotion as it is a diminishing of a person's self disapproval, self doubt, and self disrespect. As easy as that sounds, self-love is hard to find in people. I think that's why we find it so attractive. What makes it so hard to achieve? We are constantly being told what's right and wrong. We are influenced so intensely by those around us that we constantly feel like we could be better. Self-love begins when a person realizes who they are and are comfortable and firm in what they see in themselves. We then see in these people that they are more focused on WHO they are rather than WHAT they are or what they COULD be. Nobody seems to be their own person. Is acceptance so important that we lose sight of who we really are and who we truly want to be? Is it so important that we begin to hate who we really are? Or is it just easy to do what others do, so that we don't even have to think about what we really want. Self-love is an easy thing to see in people because it's a characteristic that so few have. Their confidence shines through and draws me toward them. Self-love is something I catch myself struggling with at times. It's so easy to start criticizing myself. Confidence is the biggest sign of self-love. It's something I want people to see in me.

“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”